New Resources For Dealing With Bullies

New Resources For Dealing With Bullies

At some point in their lives most people experience bullying. The most common time is during childhood and adolescence; however the effects of bullying can turn into lifelong problems. Recently, bullying has crossed over into arenas other than the usual face-to-face and behind-your-back. With technology always advancing, there are myriad outlets for bullying, which becomes incredibly dangerous with a tech-savvy generation of kids and teens.

While bullying has often seemed inevitable, there are some techniques that can be used in order to make kids and teens less susceptible to this problem. These techniques can be found in Susan Eikov Green’s DON’T PICK ON ME: Help for Kids to Stand Up to and Deal with Bullies and Susan Sprague’s COPING WITH CLIQUES: A Workbook to Help Girls Deal with Gossip, Put-Downs, Bullying, and Other Mean Behavior. These authors help the victims of bullies to think critically about the effect that bullying has on their self-confidence and give them the skills to keep it from reoccurring in the future.

WHAT IS BULLYING?

Bullying can take many forms. For example, teasing and gossiping are both hurtful actions, regardless of intent. Bullying can be physical, as well, which is less often tolerated. Both forms are unacceptable, but it is sometimes hard for bullies to be punished for their actions when they only inflict emotional harm.

Cyber bullying has become a common phrase, meaning bullying online, and other forms of technology such as using websites like Facebook and Myspace to degrade or threaten another kid or teen. Other examples of cyber bullying include: mean text messages and instant messages. The sentiment is the same as regular bullying; however it is, in some cases, more indirect, even though it is equally as damaging.

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE EFFECTS OF BULLYING?

Each person who is bullied may feel differently about what they experienced, however a lower self-esteem is common. One alarming development is the increasing rate of children who are bullied and then commit suicide. As social networking gains popularity among youth, suicide due to cyber bullying increases as well. Cyber bullying is made easy because technology increases rapidly, is generally affordable, and is coveted by kids and teens.

HOW DO THESE NEW BOOKS ADDRESS THESE PROBLEMS?

Putting an end to the cycle of bullying can be difficult because it requires a commitment to nonviolence and nonaggression. One method suggested is to curtail bullying by respond assertively, making it clear that mean words or actions will not be tolerated. Cyber bullying in particular requires many different actions in order to end it because it is so varied. Kids must think more about what they say online because their actions have serious consequences.

Children and teens today face many pressures every day, some unprecedented and therefor even more difficult to navigate. For guidance and insight check out these two new books at www.newharbinger.com

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